Listen to Your Child
If we want our kids to trust their bodies and for others to hear when they establish a boundary about their body, it starts with us. 💯👍🏽👍🏻👍🏾👍🏼 Let’s hear them, listen, and respect their requests. (Note: Preverbal children may communicate by turning or pushing away, shaking head, etc.)
Yes, some days this may result in them. . .
🥦not eating their vegetables
🚽having a potty accident
🧥not wearing a jacket,
but they will learn that we trust and respect their voice (consent!). And will have the expectation that others do, as well.👏🏼👏🏾👏🏿👏🏽
⚠️I know, someone is thinking: “But what if they want to wear flip flops in the snow?”
✅Parents are in charge of health and safety, so if your child is pushing against a health and safety boundary that you’ve set, it’s okay to hold it!
🔑State your boundary AND offer a choice:
➡️”If you want to go in the snow, you need to wear your boots. Should we make snow angels or build a snowman?” Or “Stay inside or go out?”
➡️”I know you want to keep playing, but it’s time for bed. Do you want to wear your Mickey or Elmo jammies?”
➡️”You can do it, or I can help you.”
🧥”I don’t need a jacket”
✔️Bring it with you instead of forcing them to wear it
✔️If they’re cold, they’ll ask for it
🚽”I don’t have to go potty”
✔️Create a routine of going potty before leaving the house
✔️Bring an extra change of clothes, just in case
😳”I’m not ready to go play yet”
✔️”That’s okay. You can stay with me until you’re ready”
🍽”I don’t want to eat anymore”
✔️”Okay, you don’t have to” – young kids will not starve themselves and not forcing them to eat will establish a healthier relationship with food
✔️If you’re worried about their eating enough, consistently offer a healthy snack before bed
✔️”It’s okay to feel scared. I’m here, you’re safe”
🙅🏽♂️”I don’t want to give Grandma a kiss”
✔️”That’s okay. Choose how you want to say goodbye”
⁉️😴Notice “I’m not tired” isn’t on my list 😉
✔️For me, this is a “health + safety” boundary
☑️Choices: go to bed now or in 5 min, choose a book, or quiet time if won’t nap
Let me know what you think!
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