Breaking down Generational Parenting Patterns
Within all of us is a long squiggly line of conditioned behavior. No two strings are alike as we all come from different backgrounds and belief systems where both our relational and environmental conditions affect(ed) us in a variety of ways.
While theres *not ever* a one-size-fits-all model for addressing these patterns, I believe that awareness is the first step to getting honest with your current state and yourself to identify what you may be repeating or playing out in your own (re)parenting practice.
So first of all, what are generational parenting patterns and where the heck do they come from? Read the first slide, mentally or screen shot and physically check off the points that resonate.
Next, what do they look like? Read the second slide and ask yourself, do any of these beliefs or behaviors connect with me? Am I guilty of repeating these patterns? (look, I wouldn’t be posting this if each of us weren’t guilty of this behavior) get real with yourself. We have to go through it to grow through it.
Last, what do they sound like? Do you find yourself in conversation with others who have an old paradigm mindset? Do you find yourself saying or believing any of the phrases on slide three? Is it time to set more boundaries around the conversations you have about your parenting?
Tell me in the comments:
Where do your generational patterns come from?
What do they look like?
What do they sound like?
Who reinforces the behavior?
Which of the above connect with you?
Remember, this isn’t about blaming or shaming anyone. I am a firm believer that we all of the best we can with what we know, and once we know better, we do better.
Release and forgive, release and forgive, release and forgive.
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