8 Things to Try Before Yelling
Hey pandemic parents,
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Yelling is something many parents struggle with and wish they did less of. Why do we yell? Here’s a few possible reasons:
If we are prone to yelling and our child is not responding, it’s possible they’ve developed a defense against it in order to protect themselves. If there is no imminent danger, before you yell pause & notice what you're experiencing.
Pause may look like closing your eyes, taking an exaggerated deep breath (exhalation being longer than the inhalation), or walking away. -
“I see the drawing on the wall and I’m experiencing some big feelings, I need a break. I will be right back.”
Then notice what you’re experiencing.
If you’re overwhelmed because your child has destroyed the room - that makes sense.
If you’re angry because your children keep fighting - that makes sense.
As we make sense of our own experiences we can return to our child and ask a question rather than yell. Or we may reflect on how we would have liked to have been approached when we were little in a similar situation.
Remember to care for yourselves, even if it means three minutes of deep breathing in the morning while you sit alone in the bathroom!
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