6 Strategies That Support Our Toddlers
Earlier on this week we talked about the WHY behind the “terrible 2s,3s,4s”
As a refresher, if we anticipate that these years will be terrible then we approach them with anxiety, dread, and resentment.
Our children are growing and have so much going on internally and externally.
They're learning their own voice and wanting to assert it, and they still desperately want to know that they are valued.
So how do we help them and in turn help ourselves?
⚡Get on eye-level
Have you ever gotten down on your child’s eye level and looked up? The world is BIG and can feel intimidating! (If you haven’t I encourage you to do so now. Pause and observe)
As frequently as possible but especially when needing to communicate something important get down on their eye-level. Our children feel as if they have some control, safety, and more connected when we are at their level.
⚡Focus on what you want to see and hear
It can be easy to jump in and say “why!” “Don’t talk to me that way”
Pause, remember your child is learning from what you model.
Help them re-word those phrases and focus on what you want to see.
It may seem entirely illogical to us and irrational why they’re crying because they can’t go play outside during a thunderstorm but their feelings are always valid.
⚡Be confident, neutral, and laugh
Being a parent doesn’t have to be serious all the time! Laughter is a wonderful way to break up tension and foster connection. So be silly, confident when you have to set a loving limit, and stay neutral.
Transitions are hard for many of us, parents and kids! When it’s time to transition remember Connect, Transition early, Anticipated event. See image 5.
⚡Play and explore
Despite what we are made to believe, our young children do not need to be in structured playdate after playdate, structured activities, or start preparing for college.
When your child is engaged in play whether with toy or pots and pans, let them be. (Of course always step in if it's a safety concern.)
Which of these are you ready to start implementing or practice already?!
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